Here some ways to pave the way for a better relationship with the in-laws.
Never be the bearer of bad news. In all things, let your spouse deal with the his/her family. He/she is their son/daughter, so that is already a plus on his/her side. Whatever he/she says to them will be received with more love and tolerance that what you say. It's fact, accept it.
Take everything with a pinch of salt. You did not grow up in his/her family, therefore you may not be privy to every nuance of their body language or language. They may speak a certain way or act a certain way completely natural to them but that you might find odd or offensive. Therefore, in any situation, don't be tempted to retaliate before you've had a chance to talk to your spouse. It Ma just be a matter of familiarity.
Make and effort. Even though you may not love them like you own parents, you can still show love and effection to your spous's parents. Take the time to find out their favourite food or hobbies, for instance. On special occasions, give them a toughtful gift, Choose their favourite restaurant to go for family dinners.
Accept them for who they are. You have to face the fact that they may never be like your own family to you. That's okay. Learn to accept their flaws and celebrate the positive points and you will be happier in-law.
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